Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. (Ephesian 5 vs 1-2)

In the context of marriage, if we don’t feel loved, our differences are magnified. We each come to view the other as a threat to our happiness. We fight for self- worth and significance, and marriage becomes a battlefield rather than haven. Love is not the answer to every problem, but it creates a climate of security in which we can seek answers to those issues that bothers us.

In the security of love, a couple can discuss differences without fear of condemnation. Conflict can be resolved. Two people who are different can learn to live together in harmony and discover how to bring out the best in each other. Those are the rewards of love.

Love really is the most powerful force in the world. It was love that led Christ to give his life for us. We have eternal life because of his love, and we also have an opportunity to love each other as his representatives. In Ephesian 5, the apostle Paul encourages us to follow Christ examples and live a life of love. Marriages function best when both partners feel genuinely loved. The decision to love your spouse holds tremendous potential, and learning his/her primary love language makes that potential a reality. This week, take the time to understand your spouse’s love language and love him/her from that language.


Father, thank you for the transforming power of love. Your love for me gives me so many things-self-worth, purpose, and eternal life. May I learn to imitate you in the way I love my spouse, and may that love lead to greater unity.