Then God saw everything that he had made, and indeed it was very good. (Genesis 1 vs 31) Have you ever been involved in a project that you were passionate about?  You spent countless hours on the project and upon completion, you admired it and exclaimed, “this is very good”. God gave us the ability to […]

Expressing Love

We know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our heart with love. (Romans 5 vs 5) How can we love a spouse who is difficult to love? Through counselling, I have met many individuals who live in unbelievably difficult marriages. Without exception, the root problem of […]

Learning to love like God loves

May the Lord lead your hearts into a full understanding and expression of the love of God and the patient endurance that comes from Christ (2Tessalonians 3 vs 5) One husband said to his wife, “You know I love you. Why do I have to keep saying it?” another said, “I gave you a gift […]

Studying Your Spouse

The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. (1 Corinthians 7 vs 3) We must understand male-female differences if we are going to discover God’s ideal for sexual intimacy. The husband’s emphasis is most often on the physical aspect: the seeing, the touching, the feeling. The wife, […]

Languages of Apology

“O Lord”, I prayed, “have mercy on me. Heal me, for I have sinned against you.”  (Psalm 41 v 4) Apology language #1 is expressing regret. Examples are “I’m sorry” or “I feel badly about what I did.” Apology language #2 is accepting responsibility. “I was wrong” or “It was my fault.” Apology language #3 is making restitution. “What […]