Updates from our family life ministry


Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent; and he took Rebecca and she became his wife, and he loved her. (Genesis 24 v 67) The Lord works in mysterious ways, and the story of how you met may reflect the mystery of His working in your lives. As you think back on your […]


Then God saw everything that he had made, and indeed it was very good. (Genesis 1 vs 31) Have you ever been involved in a project that you were passionate about?  You spent countless hours on the project and upon completion, you admired it and exclaimed, “this is very good”. God gave us the ability to […]

Expressing Love

We know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our heart with love. (Romans 5 vs 5) How can we love a spouse who is difficult to love? Through counselling, I have met many individuals who live in unbelievably difficult marriages. Without exception, the root problem of […]

Learning to love like God loves

May the Lord lead your hearts into a full understanding and expression of the love of God and the patient endurance that comes from Christ (2Tessalonians 3 vs 5) One husband said to his wife, “You know I love you. Why do I have to keep saying it?” another said, “I gave you a gift […]

Studying Your Spouse

The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. (1 Corinthians 7 vs 3) We must understand male-female differences if we are going to discover God’s ideal for sexual intimacy. The husband’s emphasis is most often on the physical aspect: the seeing, the touching, the feeling. The wife, […]

Languages of Apology

“O Lord”, I prayed, “have mercy on me. Heal me, for I have sinned against you.”  (Psalm 41 v 4) Apology language #1 is expressing regret. Examples are “I’m sorry” or “I feel badly about what I did.” Apology language #2 is accepting responsibility. “I was wrong” or “It was my fault.” Apology language #3 is making restitution. “What […]

Communicating Sincerity

You were cleansed from your sins when you obeyed the truth, so now, you must show sincere love to each other as brothers and sisters. Love each other deeply with all your heart. 1 Peter 1:22 Have you ever questioned the sincerity of someone’s apology? It’s probably because the person did not speak your apology […]


Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me and know my anxious thoughts; and see if there be any hurtful ways in me and lead me in the everlasting way. (Psalm 139 vs 23-24) What does your spouse do or say that hurts you most deeply? That is probably a clue to your […]


As the deer longs for streams of water, so long for you, O God. I thirst for God, the living God. When can I go and stand before Him? (Psalm 42 vs 1-2) After the creation of Adam and Eve, God said that the two should become one. Becoming “one” does not mean that we […]


DIFFERENCES IN PARENTING If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. (James 1 vs 5) One of the issues that often disrupts marital unity is differences of opinion on how to rear children. One wife said, “we didn’t have any problems […]